Let’s talk about dating your spouse! I love getting all dolled up and going out with my husband. I especially love one on one quality time with him and the chance to catch up on what’s going in our lives and what God is up to. Don’t get me wrong, we talk all the time. But it’s not the same as intentionally setting time aside to do something together.
Over the years, our date nights have looked different based on the seasons we were in. Sometimes we could afford going out to more expensive restaurants such as Montanas or Boston Pizza but more often than not, we go to a nearby fast food restaurant and dine in. Some weeks, our date night is either spent taking Esther out for a late night drive to get her to sleep or the three of us going out for a walk. For a little while (when Esther was just born), we would pick up some food and take it back to the house. The problem we ran into is that we typically watch a show while we eat as a way to unwind. It became natural for us to turn on the tv, even on date night. Because of this, we didn’t get the same quality time together we would have if we went out. We decided that in order to prioritize date night for us it had to involve leaving the house.
Prioritizing Date Night for YOU
Whether you have no kids or five kids, intentionally taking time to connect with your spouse is crucial! If you wait until life calms down to spend time together, it’ll never happen. I believe that in order to put your marriage first and really grow as a couple, date night needs to be regularly prioritized. Now, it doesn’t have to be some fancy restaurant every time because that doesn’t really fit in with the average budget. Heck, it doesn’t even have to cost a thing (expect maybe gas…). I have a friend who has committed to grabbing a coffee and going out for a walk with her husband every Sunday evening because they recognize it’s important to spend time together, just the two of them. The important thing is making an intentional decision to prioritize date night and quality time together so that you can connect and grow with your spouse.
Date Night Ideas
Okay, so we’ve established that date night is important – especially in marriage. But for those who have kids the question you’re probably thinking about now is what to do with the kids so you can have a date night. For us, it was important and fit into our schedule to do a date every week but for some people it might work better every other week. When it comes to having kids, it gets a little more difficult but just as important to make time for date night. Thankfully Esther is still at a stage where we bring her with us and she is pretty content the whole time. I’m afraid the day is coming soon when we will have to figure out what to do with her so that we can continue with our weekly date nights and strengthening our marriage.
Here are a few of my favourite date night ideas:
- If you have regular access to affordable babysitters and decide to go out for a meal, take turns picking the restaurant.
- For a mostly cost-free option – find a lake or park and go for a walk
- Go to a coffee shop and sit and have a coffee together
- Take the kids to a park and sit on a nearby bench or set them up with a movie and go sit somewhere else in the house.
- Know when all the kids go to bed and plan to spend quality time together once they’re all asleep.
- Make sure you get in some quality alone time together – I know you know what I mean.
The date doesn’t have to last for hours. What’s important is that you are prioritizing your spouse and your marriage. I’d love to hear your thoughts and how you date your spouse. Share your ideas on Instagram and tag me @alittlefaith_momblog so I can see them!